Shyness

that was when i first met him

today i was around him and i was crazy and just being myself

and who's to say he doesnt feel the same

^ Then what’s the flipping problem??? Go and marry him already! :)

we had a fight, so we havent tlked in a little while

and i dont kno if he does feel the same, i might just be imagining the "signs"

o and i dont think you can get married at 15, lol

You’re right, it’s complicated. I’ll let you figure it out!

But still, you can’t blame shyness for the reason he didn’t/mayn’t like you, and thus you must admit that there is nothing wrong with being shy.

yea, but you get more friends if your not shy

and more bf's cause i have had no bf's =/

There are lots of advantages to being shy, including that you have more meaningful relationships because you don’t desperately throw yourself into something just so you’re not alone. It may not be easy, but I think (hope) it’s worth it in the long run.

Being shy has really been hard on my social life. I have no gf at all.

^ Darth, I really know where you’re coming from, but I guess I’m lucky in that I at least had someone to build me up and make me believe in myself. I guess I don’t want to change myself anymore, because I like myself, and I know I can be loved for who I am. And if someone doesn’t give me a chance because I’m shy, then I don’t want much to do with them anyway.

People with no bfs and people with no gfs – is there a solution staring in our face here – oh i see … only 15 .. doh – when are you 16?

me? ehh like 50 bagillion days, my b-day is june 2

i think its cute when a boy is shy :)

but i also think that he should learn to open up with me, because being shy forever isnt always a good thing.

yeah its cute….but i think you'll be irritated later if you notice he kinda likes you too but couldn't say it or express it….or worst, ignoring the feelings for you…anyway, guys should make the move.we're not getting any younger, aren't we?

i have only one regret in life i do wonder if i would have had more fun when i was younger if i had been less shy. no scratch that i dont wonder i know!!!

I would be surprised if anyone who’s shy has a problem expressing themselves to someone they’re familiar with. At least, it wouldn’t be a result of shyness, since I’m a very emotional shy person, so once I’m comfortable with someone I don’t have any problems. I don’t think reluctance in revealing your inner feelings to those you trust can be blamed on being shy at all once you’ve gotten over that initial hurdle.

does this really make some one more attractive? arches eyebrow

Simple answer? Yes.

I'm sure Mr. AJMcFly will offer an explanation for this better than I could, and no doubt I will agree with it. ;)

I belive it does, like Aimee sad Im sure AJMcFly will answer it better, but why I think it makes people attractive is because along with shyness comes mystery, and to get to know the prson is move difficult so thus intreging. Like a puzzle or game you have to say certain things and be a certain way for the person to start to trust you. 

Well, personally, yes, this does make someone more attractive to me. Some people might feel differently, but I find someone who is very outgoing and talks a lot to be a huge turnoff. Also, being shy myself, I tend to be introspective and think about a lot of deep things, and I like people who are more interested in those kinds of thoughts.

Has anyone seen Marty? Marty’s a shy butcher, right, and there’s a great line he has that goes: “You don’t get to be good-hearted by accident. You get kicked around long enough, you become a professor of pain.”

I think shy people do have a more difficult time making connections with others. I myself am very picky as well. So the more you feel rejected or that there’s no one you can find a connection with, the more you become aware of how that feels and so you’re more sensitive and understanding of others. And being a kind and caring person is a very high priority on my list.

The point is, that shyness, for me, tends to lead toward qualities that I very much admire in another person, while being outgoing can lead toward qualities that may annoy me. I totally respect people who are quiet more than I do those who are outgoing. All of this leads me to find shyer people to be more attractive to me.

Well, you asked! :)

Hear, hear! :)

i effing HATE being shy =[

it ruined everything, everything! *bursts into tears*

throws you a towel

huh?

to wipe your tears, duh

o0o

Hey there, no need to cry. I know how you feel.

no, you prolly dont

ah I would bet my money on Darth for this heart broken fight

haha, thanks DB … I think…

o really, so your first love ended up hating you before you were even in a relationship with them and then once you started seeing them in school and started to heal, they met a girl two states away and started going out with them before they had even known each other for a week?

.... im not even going to argue with you so w/e

Teenage drama-rama ftw.

llamagurl, plz go here

http://www.teenageforums.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=108 

i'm not depressed!!!

Please stop blaming shyness for the failure of your non-relationship. The guy just isn’t right for you (if he was, he’d appreciate you for who you are)!

i blame shyness because he thought i was closing up and not tlking to him and now he has a gf that isnt me

It is one of two things:

1) Either he perceives that you were closing up, when if fact you are just shy and not opening up because it takes you some warming up (even though you said you’re comfortable with him and feel fine being yourself now), in which case if he doesn’t have the patience to wait, he is not right for you. Or …

2) He will happily use whatever excuse he can to blow you off, and shyness is the excuse he is using.

Either way, it seems that he is just “not that into you” and just because you have an infatuation with him doesn’t mean that he will. I hate the thought of manipulating someone into liking you because, for whatever reason, you like them very much. If you want to create a meaningful relationship, I would suggest looking for someone who will care for you as is, not someone you can mold to care for you, either by changing him or by changing yourself. And stop worrying about whether you have a boyfriend or not, because just having a boyfriend won’t make you happy, especially if it isn’t mutual.

Enough shy bashing, please!

thanx so instead of bashing shyness you are bashing me, great

He is not bashing you. You're seeing coments that aren't there.

Anyway, try falling for someone who hates you.
Or falling for someone online who you never have a chance of meeting face to face.
Or having everyone you DO have a chance with disapearing from your life for various reasons.

I am just trying to get you to get a grip on reality. You need to stop fawning over someone who doesn’t appreciate certain aspects of your personality – it was bound to hurt you, and you knew so all along.

I am not bashing you at all. I am telling you there are better people out there who are deserving of your care and who WANT it. Don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t.

And to add to Darth’s list:

Try falling for someone you met online who is married, and who you can’t even be friends with now, and who you may never get to meet because they need space to find themselves.

al right lamagurl everyone here is really sweet nice to u and u r turning it into somthing it's not! u think your the only one with a teenage sop story?! so im gonna give it to u straight! i think that u need to stop wallowing in self pitty and get over it! i know i seem insensitive but u know what i don't care! u've turn this WHOLE convo about u! and all your troubles! that i don't really care about but it's your over defenicvness and blaming of others who r trying to help u! how selfish can u get!?

handbag raised ….

So, anyway....shyness...

saddam… hand bag raised?

starting fights – wave handbags and scream !!!!

Ooh, that’s a great link, Aimee! * bookmarks * Thank you!

I think all shy people should take that advice and stop caving into societal pressure.

i agree aj!

w/e

diddo to u

I am a complete introvert and I only really began to accept it a few years ago. *Wishing i wasn't too shy to add to this.*